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What it’s like to survive a school shooting

A decade after the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School, the story of a 10-year-old girl who survived the shooting at Robb Elementary in Uvalde, Tex. — and how she has become a voice for the friends she lost that day.

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After a school shooting, we often hear numbers — how many children and teachers were killed or injured. But for the survivors and their families, the trauma can be overwhelming. 

“I think the scope of this crisis is so much larger than people are willing to acknowledge,” reporter John Woodrow Cox says. “It’s not just the kids who died. It’s not just kids who got shot. It’s not just the kids like Caitlyne who listen to the whole thing happen and lost dear friends. It’s third-graders, it’s teachers and their kids. It’s cousins. It’s people in the community who thought, ‘Is my kid dead?’ That damage cannot be undone.”

With the permission of Caitlyne Gonzales and her parents, John spent the summer with the 10-year-old school shooting survivor, following her as she went to karate and guitar lessons, rallies for gun reform in Texas and Washington, school board meetings and back to school. He was also there with her family in the evenings, when Caitlyne’s trauma was the most apparent and she struggled to go to sleep without her mom. Caitlyne and her parents wanted people to see that while on the outside she might look like a composed activist, she’s still dealing with an enormous amount of trauma.

John has been reporting on children and gun violence for more than five years and is the author of an award-winning book on the subject, “Children Under Fire: An American Crisis.”